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Dr. Laura Schlessinger is the incredibly popular and controversial psychotherapist who hosts a nationally syndicated, top-rated midday radio talk show. She has strong convictions and doesn't hesitate to voice them to callers. She urges women emphatically to lose a domineering jerk of a lover and pick one of the "good guys," to stay home and parent the babies they've made, and to follow the dream rather than some dreamboat. Above all, she exhorts women not to blame anybody or anything but themselves if they're unhappy and their lives seem a mess.

10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives uses real-world examples from Schlessinger's radio show and private practice to drive the message home. And the message is that our reticence to be bold and brave often makes us act like stupid, submissive victims. Once we muster the courage to take responsibility for our own problems and to tolerate the discomforts of risk, the possibilities for personal growth and joy are limitless.

If you're looking for an all-approving hand to hold, you won't find it here. If you're prepared to take a clear-eyed look at your self-diminishing behavior and to make the move to a quality existence, there's no one better than Schlessinger to keep you honest and to cheer you on. One thing's for sure: You'll never look at your relationships, behaviors and decisions the same way after you've finished reading this book.

Customer Reviews:

  • Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives
    Bought it for myself. Then bought two more for friends! A must read for all women....more info
  • A Guys Perspective
    Call me stupid, but this book made sense. As a pastor I have come to realize that pastoral counseling is not one of my strengths. My concept of pastoral counseling is to get a 2 x 4 and smack someone on the side of the head and tells them to get a life- perhaps, that is my this book appealed to me. Dr. Lauras straightforward approach made perfect sense to me. Perhaps that is my so many woman reviews have panned this book at being cold, insensitive, or uncompassionate.

    But after twenty years of pastoral counseling, I still am dumbfounded how some women sabotage their lives. Case in point. During premarital counseling sessions, I always try to determine whether there is drug or alcohol abuse, especially in second or third marriages where children are involved. More than once, I have been told that there is no abuse where I have suspected there was only to have the woman back in my office three to six months later crying her eyes out and blowing snot into her hanky and telling me about her husbands drug or alcohol abuse. What is partially frustrating for me is that invariable these woman knew before their marriage that the problem existed, but believed that love would solve the problem.

    Ok, so I am another insensitive white male who does not understand woman. So be it. But I think that Dr. Laura is right....more info

  • Coincided with a turning point
    If you consider this book as nothing more than "common sense", count yourself as blessed - some of us actually needed to hear it. I bought this book at a major turning point in my life and it changed the way I looked at my future. Dr. Laura is "technically" right on almost all moral points but she does, at times, lack grace which, I admit, bothers me. And yet, at other times, I have heard her exhibit heartfelt compassion to her callers. But anyway, it is not for me to determine the motives of her heart; I can only say her advice is sound and her standard is truth....more info
  • Stupid behaviors, not stupid women
    I really enjoyed reading this book after a recommendation on a messageboard after sharing my experience. I didn't know what I was feeling and experiencing till I read this book. It was like it was writing about my life! Well, suffice to say, it helped me to open my eyes. I heard about the controversy surrounding this author and I understand why. She is being very realistic and sensible about realities of life. Most of the things in the book I have an agreement about, while some others it didn't really elaborate much. It depends where you are at this point in your life. But do read it if you're at crossroads (like I). But if you're totally happy with your relationship, then maybe it's not for you....more info
  • Interesting
    You know, it's really interesting to see the whacko-political right, immediately branding myself and other critics of the good Doctor as being extreme liberals.

    Sooner or later, the term 'infidel' will eventually emerge, as the last two reviewers advocate cramming this book down the throats of youngsters in high school.

    The extermination of non-believers is a distant agenda for this kind of ideological terrorism, and taking a step towards it is never a good thing. We've seen it in the Bible and we've seen it in Nazi germany - haven't we learned yet?

    Let's just try to be fair about this. I do NOT approve of this intolerant literature, you do. If someone wants to read it... they can. If someone doesn't, then don't force them to. Is that really too much to ask in a free market culture?

    'Required reading in high schools!' You guys really know how to get a laugh out of me!

    Let's just be frank here... you like Chocolate ice cream, I like Pistachio. I say, eat what you like... you say "Everybody should eat Chocolate ice cream, because it's right"... just listen to yourselves! Whew!...more info

  • Changed my life
    I received this book almost six years ago. I had just come out of an abusive relationship. I simply could not stop loving my ex. My mother, not knowing what else to do, bought this for me. I could not believe how many women had been through the same events I had!!!!!!! I read this book over and over. It changed the way I viewed my whole life. Her blunt and to the point answers is just what I needed to hear. To this day I am ever greatful to Dr. L. My copy still stands on the bookshelf, worn and torn, with a coffee stain down the front. I am now 26 and am I ever glad I did not end up with that man!! Please pick up a copy of this book. You will not be sorry you did!...more info
  • Not for married people
    My wife read this book and said it was more for couples who are not married. If you are married, not much in here will apply...more info
  • Better for younger age women
    I bought the cassette tape of this book. It was good but it really has several scenerios more for younger women than myself. I'm in my late 40's. There are several good messages and points regardless of age but I think it leans more towards the younger 20's crowd....more info
  • Excellent!
    This is an excellent book for anyone willing to listen to the intelligent arguments Dr. Laura makes. More women should listen! This book is used as an educational tool in the juvenile facility where I volunteer. ...more info
  • I Don't Know
    I don't know. I bought the book as a gift and haven't spoken to the recipient since. Personally I loved the book myself...more info
  • I'm reading this to my 10-year-old daughter
    Here are the first three of the ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives, according to Dr. Laura: 1) they seek their identity in stupid attachments, 2) are panicky to pour themselves into courtship with a lunkhead who will accept them, and 3) suffer stupid devotion for the sake of a wretch.
    I've been in the "people business" for 20 years, and I'm convinced that Dr. Laura's right. I used to wince at her brutal approach to truth, but no more; she's not just talking to ONE person on the other end of the line. Dr. Laura is skilled at discerning the exact bad decisions that have lead to a particular problem, then using that example to warn another half-million listeners to avoid this same pitfall. That's what she does in this book. She catalogues 10 of most the dangerous - and stupid - decisions women make and explains how to avoid these. Any 10-year-old girl can understand these principles, but these things need to be said aloud. It's not a new book, but it's timeless truth....more info
  • skip the one star reviews
    ....I have listened to Dr. Laura's program for the last 8
    years... that's before the religious conversion she/her show
    underwent. I have read all her books, so i feel i have some basis
    from which to comment. If you are thinking about buying this book, do
    it. What is it, 10 bucks for the paperback? If the information in it
    could change your life for the better wouldnt it be worth it? If you
    think its a bunch of crap... thats fine, but really, really try to
    read it with an open mind... sometimes the truth hurts and we dont
    want to admit the image in the mirror is a reflection of ourselves. I
    had bought a bunch of these paperbacks and gave them to female friends
    i cared about... young, in their early twenties. .... Dr. Laura is
    VERY straightforward, blunt, logical, and does not mince words... many
    people get offended by this style. "Whoa, how can you tell me
    like it is? I want you to make me feel good." You want to feel
    good? Go read Chicken Soup For the Soul, but if you want some
    straightforward advice READ THIS BOOK.
    ...more info
  • Interesting but lacking compassion
    My male therapist recommended this book, so I bought it and read it. Overall, it seems to be honest and straightfoward, but I found it simplistic and arrogant on the author's part. Sure women do stupid things to mess up their lives. Sure as a therapist she has seen it all, heard it all, etc. but I saw little compassion or understanding for the women who do the stupid things. We all do stupid things because we react with emotions and not logic. We all have deep emotional needs that may or may not have been met when we were young, and many of us spend all our lives trying to find something we never had, or had and lost, as children. Then we get involved with men who have their own problems, their own unmet needs, their own agendas, and life gets pretty complicated. It is easy for a doctor who is not living your life, to sit back and judge the things you say and do to try to meet those needs, as stupid. The things may seem stupid on the surface, but underneath the acts and in the heart of many women, are needy little girls who just want to be loved and accepted for who they are, just like men want to be loved and accepted for who they are. This book could have been written with a lot more compassion and heart, but that wouldn't have been Dr. Laura. Some people find coldness and insensitivity as "honest". I don't. It just seems mean-spirited. Reading this book didn't improve my life or give me tools to cope with my areas of weakness. It just made me think this woman sat up and her high horse and pointed fingers and said, all of you are stupid and I know it all. I'll bet she has done some stupid things in her life herself but you wouldn't know it from the way she writes. The book would have been much better if it had a little more heart and a few constructive ways that women can get out of some of the emotional traps they find themselves in, instead of just saying we are all stupid for doing some of the irrational things we do....more info
  • Duh! Use Common Sense!
    I checked this book out of the library because the title was intriguing... I'm 19 years old and I wanted to get good advice for my future. Well, I found the book ridiculous! Everything she wrote about was based on common sense! Honestly! I've always known that it is wrong to manipulate and trick someone into having a baby in order to create or maintain a relationship! All I can say is that I'm SO glad that I did not purchase this book. It would have been a definate waste of money. ...more info
  • Dr Laura is Right on this one
    Sure her talk show is good and her advice is sometimes not exactly what I think but I can't disagree on her womens book and mens book too. A lot of people dont like her "live life rightly" approach but what can it hurt to just read a small book and then afterwards you can decide if she's off base.
    Well this book is great for young and older women, I bought copies for many of my girl friends who whine about loser guys or typical female troubles that never get resolved.
    It's super cheap used on amazon.com so you really dont have an excuse to whine about relationships or personal issues anymore.
    remy...more info
  • Revelling in the HOW, Dr. Laura lacks the courage to say WHY
    The problem with Dr. Laura's TEN STUPID THINGS is that, like with most of her books, you cannot ever be sure she is being honest in a way that matters. Many accuse her of giving (White Bible-belt suburban) people a moralistic pill to swallow like LSD, inviting a return to a supposedly simpler, pre-1965 Fantasia of American life. While this stereotype is even more simplistic than anything she has yet to write, it has, like every myth, a grain of truth to it that can be explained best via the work of the great psychologists of our time that she all but openly refuses to refer to. In attempting to avoid the intellectual and moral responsibility inherent in structuring a sharing of psychological and social truths, Dr. Laura hides a professional insecurity, I believe, behind her common sense language that may reveal a not so healthy end-game agenda.

    Dr. Laura indeed gives a LOT of common sense talk in this, like in most of her books. She does not, however, go deep into the modern female psyche-like what Nancy Friday does with MY MOTHER MY SELF, or Judith Hollis with FAT AND FURIOUS, or Alice Miller in THOU SHALT NOT BE AWARE-for the benefit of *context*; to enable women to understand what unconscious agenda is being served by these behaviors that would make them need a how-to manual for basic adult living. Her only concern in even cryptically stating the raison d'Etre of the entire discipline of psychology (which, though people often forget, is not what she got her doctorate in) seems to be so it can give her an appearance of moral authority, enabling her to complain about the narcissistic/quasi-misogynist modern culture in the exact same way women complain about the men within it.

    Here are facts that are not proclaimed in our common sense talk about male/female relationships: the overwhelming majority of angry women in marriages/relationships that they cannot stop complaining about in American society, regardless of variations of age, race, class, religion or social background, have virtually the same thematic myths about their mother/daughter relationships and their childhoods. A woman's relationships with men, her own body, her mind and her self-esteem are usually the product of what women learned or didn't learn as young girls in the mother/daughter relationship-the first of any relevance for all women. The pattern for these relationships in America, whether women admit it or not, is often heartbreakingly deceitful, neglectful, anachronistic and abusive. But the only way women can keep the myths alive about what this relationship was, and not be confronted with the emotional/spiritual consequences of its painful reality, is by doing one or more of the following:

    1) running to a religious community where these truths can be avoided with the use of scripture

    2) hanging out almost exclusively with women who are in denial about the same problems

    3) Willfully ignoring the fact that, as American women today, they are richer and more powerful than 90% of all women in the world and in human history (even at their financial and emotional WEAKEST) and the human responsibility that entails, or

    4) holding the man (be it husband, father or abstract phallic symbol, like a "Patriarchal subculture" in the business world) in their life responsible for changing something they in actuality do not want changed at all: a man/woman or society/woman relationship that allows them to ignore the pain of their pasts by being a living analogy of the primal mother/daughter relationship as it really was.

    Or 5): all of the above. That, plus the *Oprah-iate of the masses* that is Hollywood/Madison Ave. & the talk show circuit catering to this narcissistic tendency in American women, is a major chunk of modern day society.

    Women should be encouraged to understand their dysfunctional behavior, regardless of men's, in this context: of it being the symptoms of a cultural/emotional/intellectual addiction (like what Alcoholism became to the Native Americans after the many genocides). A straight-up listing of what the behaviors are should only be given out by anyone calling themselves "Doctor" to serve that purpose.

    Dr. Laura, however, mentions none of this and doesn't do any of this. Because eliciting real emotional health and economic independence for women is not actually part of her agenda.

    Take a look at some of the questions Dr. Laura addresses in the truly healthy philosophical context that she does not:

    =Why hasn't he called? (Short Answer: WHY DOES YOUR MOTHER CALL SO OFTEN?)

    =Do you really want to be with someone who is not giving you back what you're giving? (AND DID YOU FEEL THAT WAY WHEN YOU WERE THIRTEEN, WHEN THAT PERSON WAS YOUR MOTHER AND YOU DIDN'T HAVE A CHOICE?)

    =Are you a volunteer hostage? (SEE QUESTION ABOVE)

    =How do I teach a man to respect me (WHEN MY MOTHER WON'T)?

    =What is true Intimacy (AND IS MOM'S RELATIONSHIP TO DAD REALLY THE MODEL I SHOULD BE FOLLOWING)?

    =Should you hang in there or leave? (WHAT DID MY MOTHER DO? WHAT DID MY MOTHER SAY SHE'D DO IF SHE HAD A SECOND CHANCE? IS MY MOTHER REALLY MY FRIEND?)

    =Who is really responsible for birth control? (AND WHY, AS I AM THE ONE GETTING PREGNANT IN THE END, WAS THIS REALLY EVEN A QUESTION FOR EITHER MY MOTHER OR ME AFTER JUNIOR HIGH SCHOOL? WHAT ARE THE REAL REASONS WHY MOTHERHOOD AT ANY COST IS SO ATTRACTIVE; NOT TO ALL WOMEN, BUT TO ME?)

    =What is the difference between Sexual Passion and Mature Love? (WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVING MY MOTHER AND LOVING A MAN?)

    Dr. Laura's letter of the law in TEN STUPID THINGS is straightforward and, naturally, well enough written. But truly embracing the spirit of the law-and honoring the female heart for which it stands-goes a little deeper than this. Read this in the library as a map to Heaven; buy something deeper to learn how to actually get there and live there....more info

  • Okay...
    I was distressed to learn of what was written in the last two reviews. To the reader, from the second star on the right (second degree to the political right, would be more appropriate), you know, I'm really sorry that you've been brought up in an authoritarian environment, where your parents 'make' you read books. Sooner or later, you become one with such a mentality, and it's sad to see that you have, because you really sound like a nice girl, probably cute too.

    As far as not following the review guidelines to the n-th degree, I'm really not going to apologize for exercising a freedom granted to me as a US Citizen, so please - like the Bible, don't take EVERYTHING literally.

    I have a degree in Sociology and main thing that I have learned is that you cannot apply cookie-cutter solutions in social contexts. Particularly in relationships. Like men being predictable, it's true, women are very odd creatures (adorable though), but your comment on learning off the mistakes of others was distressing. Did you actually read the types of people in the case studies? If you equate your life to those Jerry Springer guests, then it's fine, I stand corrected.

    But one truism in life will forever remain: There is a difference in simply knowing A path and walking THE path. When you actually walk the path, you find solutions and possibilites which you never even dreamed of. Shutting them down, is so in the inimitable style of the dictatorial Schlessinger. Without assessing the facts in detail and making life decisions for you based on four-five minute phone conversations does indeed puzzle the mind as to how weak people are in this day and age. I'm glad you take comfort in the book, because it's clear to me that you're in a right wing utopia oblivious of the real world, like Laura.

    To the Reader in Seattle: Nice try, but just try calling Schlessinger and ask her how she has learned from her miscreant and foul past(Euphemize that any way you like and get a stopwatch to see how fast the screener will hang up on you). You dont' get it! She doesn't do anything wrong - she never has! She never fesses up to her callers by saying "Well, I did this... and look what happened", she will dish out her advice as if nothing DID happen! I'm curious to know whether her megalomania finally blocked these events from her memory! Anyway, there you have it. Thank you....more info

  • Excellent!
    My wife and I were talking last week, and she admiited something intensely personal- she had always wanted to be just like her Mother. I asked a few girls at work, and they mentioned that they had always had that wish also... So I went out and bought this book for my wife to help her out in her ultimate life-long goal.
    My wife is already up to step 3! This books reads like a literal biography of My mother-In-Law, and she has found it to be extremely helpful in her pursuit of her dreams. She promises to have step 3 done by the Holidays. I can't wait to see her progress!...more info
  • Every woman should read it!
    I think every woman of all ages should read this book. It is interesting to read, simple to understand, and so true....more info
  • Schlessinger's first, and best book
    Dr. Laura Schlessinger was a radio powerhouse. Her talk show was heard coast to coast in the US and Canada, on as many as 470 radio stations. At one point, over 10,000 callers per hour tried her 1-800-DRLAURA number in an attempt to get some of her tough-talking advice. This book, her first, was written just as The Dr. Laura Show had gone national, and it shared her pragmatic cut-through-the-bull viewpoint with a wider audience.

    What a difference a few years make. Schlessinger became a Conservative Jew, then an Orthodox Jew, and began following the same talking points heard on Rush Limbaugh and in WorldNetDaily. Today, the Dr. Laura show is on the decline. Fewer than 250 stations still carry it, and she is absent in several large markets such as New York, Chicago, and Baltimore. Her ill-fated attempt to move onto television was an utter failure, both critically and in ratings. Many controversies brewed, where she would attack yet another group and then be forced by her corporate bosses to issue a clenched-teeth denial. So it's interesting to reread this work from 1994, when Schlessinger's star was still rising. The first of many books by the onetime Queen of Rightwing Radio, it remains the her best both for what it is and what it is not.

    Let's keep one thing clear: her radio show is still on the air because it remains compelling. Agree with her or not, the callers' problems are fascinating. While her advice may be spot on or completely off-target, it's hard to switch her off. But Schlessinger has difficulty maintaining radio's improvisational tone in an advice book, because the problems were carefully selected, rather than snagged from several random calls. And despite her having the luxury to choose the issues supporting her points, her humor often falls flat. ("Is a Woman just a Wo- Wo- Wo- on a man?" is one of her chapter headings. They get worse.) This is more forgivable during a live broadcast, yet it is her quickness on air that made her show worth listening to.

    Ten Stupid Things' strength is in how Schlessinger described the many ways her callers made themselves unhappy. We all know women who feel they are nothing without a man (Stupid Attachment), or behaved like a fool while dating (Stupid Courtship), or who believed their love could conquer a man's rotten behavior (Stupid Devotion). The anecdotes are on target, as compelling as the calls that made it on air during the glory days of Dr. Laura.

    Another reason this is her best book is for the mistakes it doesn't make. Written before Schlessinger's violent swing to the political right, her only agenda here (other than promoting her show) is helping her female audience avoid bad relationships that impact future generations. Refreshingly free of neocon rhetoric, it lacks later books' attacks on working moms, second wives, or teenaged girls with bared midriffs. Secular lifestyles are not the poison in the Wellspring of Family Values, as Schlessinger will inform us subsequently. Nor are we assaulted by her moral superiority via her religious restraint (look ahead to How Could You Do That?! and The Ten Commandments if you find yourself in need of abasement). This one of her few books that isn't a minefield of unintentional humor to those of us who read Vickie L. Bane's unauthorized biography, which was unfortunately published before the 1998 naked pictures on the Internet incident.

    This book reminds me of why her show was so fresh and exciting in 1995: a feminist who had practical reasons why living together wasn't in women's best interest (this book has a whole chapter on Stupid Cohabitation); a modern, educated advisor who could convince callers that sex outside marriage hurts women more than men (Stupid Passion); a concerned radio show host who had the interests of kids foremost (Stupid Conception and Stupid Subjugation). The mix of modern science and traditional values was different, and Schlessinger's straightforward approach made it work far more effectively than the later religious rants and browbeating.

    It's a pity that today's show no longer reads like this book (although Ten Stupid Things was never as good as the 1995-96 radio show). While the book was quite successful, and the show became successful, then Schlessinger choked on her own hubris. Unfortunately she never realized her errors and returned to her earlier roots, which is why you will not find a work this good among her other books.

    Today Schlessinger still broadcasts her three-hours-a-day, five-days-a-week program, but has announced she is no longer an Orthodox Jew (what kind of a Jew she is she doesn't wish to inform us, but it's the kind who appears live on Yom Kippur). Read Ten Stupid Things not only for her good advice, but as a window to a kinder, gentler Laura Schlessinger....more info

  • good for the hard core fan
    I bought this for my sister and she loved it. I think it is good and I would recommend it to anyone who loves the character from the Gone with the Wind book....more info
  • Wake up, women
    If you don't really want to face up to the fact that your behavior and choices affect your life, don't read this book. If you'd rather go on making stupid choices and blaming the results on everything and everyone else, don't read this book. But if you're ready to change your life for the better, read it. I did, and it's made a major positive difference in my life. There really are right and wrong choices....more info
  • Take it with a grain of salt
    I picked this book up because it was dirt cheap in a used book store. I doubt I would have bought it full price! I decided to give it a go and read it because certain events had happened in my life, namely a really confusing breakup. It is sometimes harsh but I do think that if you get past that it is quite refreshing. Most of what written in this book is actually common knowledge, but when you read it .. I presume it drives the point home.

    I did find the first few chapters helpful. It is especially wonderful to note that I am not all that 'special' or 'unique' in my neurosis aka "is there anyone out there like this?". It's interesting to see that everyone, basically, goes through these same little patterns in relationships.

    Certain chapters in the book - especially towards the end really didn't hold any interest for me.

    I would definitely recommend this book, if only for the quote in the beginning of the book. I recite this in my mind whenever I feel myself sucummbing to any acts of stupidity in the name of man-kind.

    "It ever has been since time began,
    And ever will be, till time lose breath,
    That love is a mood - no more - to man,
    And love to woman is life or death"

    Again, the book is helpful to an extent .. just don't take it all too seriously....more info

  • take the good, leave the bad
    There is a lot of good information in this book, but in my opinion, it isn't always presented in the best way. Dr Laura is a jerk sometimes and that is not helpful. Was hoping for a little more understanding from somebody who has apparently been there. Instead, she comes across as "my situation failed because it was different."

    Still, if you can get around her bad attitude and huge ego, I think there is a lot of good information here. You are in the situation you're in because you want to be. There are options, even though it may appear there are none. We all have options....more info
  • dr. know it all
    I can't stand her. I shouldn't have even listed to the tapes! She's just a mean woman....more info
  • Highly recommend!
    During a discussion with a friend of mine about a relationship issue I had, she made me promise to get and read this book. I have to say, it's a definite must read for any girl, lady or women that has any question about a relationship she's in. The author gives so many great examples of her callers and patients that I found myself able to see a clearer picture of what I was doing in my relationship....more info
  • quite dissapointing, stopped reading after a few chapters
    This book talks about how wrong it is to trick a man to have a baby so that a man will be stuck to you and your baby. I do not need to read a book to know it is a wrong thing to do. After that I stopped reading any farther. What a waist of my time. I am a financially secure Japanese software engineer. Maybe this book is catered toward a women with no job, no game, a type of women who sit around and watch these TV talk shows all day. The contents of this book is about the same level of these day time talk shows. I bought this book with high expectation. I was looking forwared to learning something. I was very dissapointed....more info
  • Wake up
    I am not a huge fan of "self-help" books, but I enjoyed Dr. Laura's book. Dr. Laura is just trying to get women to see the strength and potential inside of themselves. Dont get me wrong, I am not saying that you should break up with your man because things are not perfect, but this book helps you realize that some things are out of your control.....but YOU can control YOU. This book reminded me to value myself (how silly of me to forget something so simple). ...more info
  • Grab your highlighter!
    This book does not need an elaborate description or explanation other than to say, if you're female--(male even)--and between the ages of 13 and 103--you will benefit from reading it. If you're a person who has the capacity to learn from other people's mistakes and can absorb insightful wisdom that may be just beyond your intellectual grasp--you should read this book. Use a highlighter liberally and reference it periodically for reinforcement. ...more info
  • My girl friend dumped me for this?????
    I find it apalling that any self-respecting woman could read this book and then have the audacity to call it "empowering" or "brilliant". I had a good idea of the book's content even before I read it. This idea was due soley to the fact that my girlfriend of 2 years suddenly ended the relationship, claiming that she had read a book that gave her a knew perspective. I had no idea that the perspective she spoke of was one so cold, heartless, and radical. Some might say that maybe I'm just one of those abusive thugs in Dr. Laura's book, and I probably deserived whatever heartbreak I recieved. I can assure you with every ounce of moral fiber in my being that I would never be abusive to any woman, for any reason, especially one I felt so strongly for. My advice to all those who wish to read this book, is to stay far from it, if you have any feelings for your significant other at all, stay far far away from it....more info
  • Ok
    Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives

    This book is ok. She certainly needs to have someone proofread and spruce up her writing. She said some things that might help some women who are in dire straights and think they don't know what to do. This was kind of common knowledge for me though. More of a reiteration of what I already knew....more info
  • For Women Who Desperately Need ANY KIND of Man
    This book is written for women who need a shove or a kick in the a**. The book basically says, in my opinion: "What are you doing to yourself" -- and speaks to the woman who so desperately needs any kind of man (even if he's abusive) because she's lonely or filling a void in her lifespace with a body, and is completely ignorant in seeing the consequences of her action, in terms of hurting herself and maybe her children. This book is written for women who have no control over their lives and most especially themselves. Dr. Laura is right on. Her book will help those women to make healthy decisions.

    Yeah, this book is for those self-deprecating women....more info

  • ...And now for something completely relevant!
    ....

    Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives is a summary of
    self-defeating behaviors women use to hide their lack of self-esteem
    and fear of following their dreams. By using real-life examples from
    her professional practice and her nartionally syndicated radio show,
    Dr. Laura explains the thinking (or lack of thought) behind poor
    decisions that have a harmful impact on women, their families, and
    their friends. These poor decisions are usually the easy out, and
    often compromise a person's integrity or plans for the
    future. Dr. Laura effectively demonstrates how withstanding momentary
    discomforts lead to a positive self-image and utlimately fulfilling
    life.

    I read this book about a year ago (not voluntarily at first,
    my parents made me) and I am glad I did. Learning from the mistakes of
    others is always better than repeating them yourself. I don't give a
    whit what mistakes Dr. Laura has made, because it's irrelevant to the
    merit of her message. Everything she says in her book is true; I have
    personally witnessed many relationships gone awry due to the behaviors
    Dr. Laura lists in her book. So if you want to be a happier, stronger
    person, this book can point you in the right direction. But only if
    you are willing to *honestly* reassess your own thoughts and actions
    without being a spineless jellyfish.
    ...more info

  • IDEALISTIC DOODOO....
    This should get 0 stars. This book was incredibly irritating and devoid of realistic implications. She reminds me of the nuns I suffered through in Catholic grade school. Except they were nicer. This kind of junk appeals to the bimbos who lap it up and then continue to act stupid....more info
  • Great read!
    This is a common sense guide all women could get some use out of....more info
  • For Those Who Want to Reflect on Themselves
    Dr. Laura gives it to you straight in this no nonsense book. While most people wouldn't have the guts to be this brutally honest and constructively critical, Dr. Laura goes where no one else dares to go. So many other self help books are too concerned about being politically correct and candy coating topics, that in the end you feel like you don't gain anything. But whether you like her or not, everything she says is actually true. This book will remind you of times in your life (and it's happened to all of us) when a family member or friend tells us something we don't want to hear but deep down inside we actually know is true. Dr. Laura is also a very logical person, so much of her opinions and advice is not hard to follow. I recommend this book to anybody in search of learning more about themselves and how they can improve themselves....more info
  • HARMFUL TO WOMEN
    I read this book years ago and I was absolutely appalled and insulted. She treats women like they are absolute idiots! If you are open minded this book is NOT for you, if you are easily swayed then good luck... you may become one of Dr. Laura Schlessinger's drones....more info